Find an accountability partner
People making significant behavioral shifts need supporters to help them ensure that their changes will stick. Becoming anti-racist is a marathon, not a sprint. This is life-long work.
Find a person who will serve as your accountability partner and try out some of these steps. This is not an exhaustive list. It’s a place to start. Part of your work is to figure out what you need to do to move yourself along the anti-racist spectrum.
- Figure out your structure: Will you call each other? Meet in person? Text? Make a plan to check in once a week or bi weekly. Make a list of some possible actions to start and/or some behaviors you’ll practice. During your check-in times, share what you have done and reflect on how it impacted you.
- Audit the books in your house. Do they represent the different voices/experiences of folks from different races?
- Audit the television shows/movies you watch. Do they represent the different voices/experiences of folks from different races?
- Audit your relationships. Are you nurturing authentic and mutually-beneficial relationships with people of different races?
- Note how you moved through multiracial situations. How are you looking at dynamics of power in multiracial situations? Questions to reflect on:
- Who do you make eye contact with first?
- Who do you cut off in conversation?
- Who do you offer more time to in conversations?
- Who do you follow-up with and why?
- Who do you invite to the next event/conversation/interaction?
- Who is invisible in conversations?
- How is power spread out throughout the room?